The Importance of Being Got

To be truly understood – got - is one of our deepest human desires. To be got is not about someone simply listening to us or nodding in agreement; it is the feeling of really being seen, heard, and valued for who we truly are. When we are got, it feels as though another person has peered into the depths of our being and acknowledged the truth of us, and without any judgment.

In a world often marked by superficial interactions, the importance of being got cannot be overstated. Being got is key to connection, healing, and personal transformation. I can’t recommend it enough!

What Does It Mean to Be Got?

Being got isn’t just with our intellectual understanding; it is about deep emotional resonance. It delivers the feeling that someone has tuned into your energy, empathised with your experiences, and validated your inner world. It might sound like:

• ‘I understand why you feel that way.’

• ‘That makes so much sense.’

• ‘You don’t even have to explain. I just get it.’

How wonderful it is to hear those words, to experience that level of understanding. We are talking about someone meeting you at your core, beyond words and without masks.

Going Deeper… Why Does It Even Matter?

There is so much to be gained from Being Got …

• Validation and a Sense of Belonging

At our core, we all want and need to belong. When someone gets us, we feel less alone. It reminds us that our experiences, emotions, and perspectives are valid and worthy of recognition.

• Deeper Connections

Authentic relationships are built on mutual understanding. The more deeply we feel got by someone, the more likely we are to trust, open up, and connect with them on a meaningful level.

• Healing

Being got is profoundly healing. When someone holds space for us without judgment, it helps dissolve feelings of isolation, shame, or confusion. It allows us to process, release, and grow.

• Empowerment

When you feel got, you feel seen and supported. This validation can empower you to step more fully into your truth, knowing that you are accepted as you are.

Yet We Can Put Up Barriers to Being Got…

While we all crave the experience of being got, many of us struggle to allow it. This can be because of…

• Fear of Vulnerability: Letting someone truly see us requires vulnerability, which can feel risky if trust hasn’t been established.

• Miscommunication: Sometimes, the words we choose don’t fully capture the depth of our feelings, leaving us feeling misunderstood.

• Projection: People often interpret others through their own lens, which can block true understanding.

So How to Invite Being Got – Some Guidelines

• Be Authentic

To be got, you must first be willing to show your true self. This means being honest about your feelings, experiences, and needs—even when it feels uncomfortable.

• Communicate Clearly

Help others understand you by expressing yourself as clearly as possible. Use “I” statements and describe your emotions or experiences without defensiveness.

• Seek Out the Right People

Not everyone is capable of truly getting you—and that’s okay. Surround yourself with people who are empathetic, curious, and willing to understand.

• Be Patient

Understanding doesn’t always happen instantly. Give others the time and space to connect with you on a deeper level.

The Gift of Helping Others Feel Got

Equally important is your ability to help others feel got. When you create that space for someone else, you offer a profound gift.

• Listen Actively: Listen deeply, not only to just respond but to truly understand. Pay attention to both their words and the emotions beneath their words.

• Be Curious: Ask open-ended questions that encourage deeper sharing.

• Empathise: Let them know their feelings are valid and make sense, even when and if their perspective is different from yours.

A World Where We Are Got

Imagine a world where being got was the norm—a world where everyone felt understood and supported in their unique truth. While we can’t change the world overnight, we can start by cultivating this energy in our own relationships.

The more we practise showing up authentically, listening deeply, and creating safe spaces for one another, the more we normalise the profound power of understanding.

A Personal Reflection

When was the last time you felt truly got? How did it impact your sense of self?

And when was the last time you made someone else feel got? Reflect on the energy exchange and how it deepened your connection.

Being got is more than a moment—it’s a lifeline. It enhances the feeling that we are not alone, that we matter, and that someone else recognises the light within us.

Let’s make it our mission to Get and Be Got.